You’re Not “Too Much” For Feeling This Way

Why Feeling Your Feelings Is How You Actually Get Through Them

We live in a culture that treats emotions like pop-up ads: annoying, inconvenient, and something you should close out of as quickly as possible.

Sad? “It’ll pass.”

Angry? “Don’t dwell on it.”

Anxious? “Just calm down.”

Disappointed? “At least it’s not worse.”

And while most of these comments are well-intentioned, they send a quiet but powerful message: your feelings are a problem to solve, not an experience to have.

But here’s the truth we don’t talk about enough: you don’t actually “get over” emotions by skipping them. You get through them by feeling them fully.

The Rush to “Be Okay” Is the Real Problem

Sadness, anger, anxiety, irritability, disappointment. These emotions are constantly rushed. Not because they’re dangerous, but because they make people uncomfortable. Sometimes other people. Sometimes us.

So we minimize. We distract. We shove it down and tell ourselves we’re fine when we’re very clearly not.

And maybe it works… for a while.

Until that unprocessed sadness turns into numbness.

That swallowed anger leaks out sideways.

That ignored anxiety settles into your body and refuses to leave.

Feelings don’t disappear because you don’t want them.

They wait.

You’re Allowed to Sit in It

Let’s say this clearly: It is okay to sit with your emotions.

It’s okay to feel angry about what hurt you. It’s okay to cry over something others think you should be “past.” It’s okay to feel disappointed, even if you’re “grateful” too. It’s okay to be irritable when life keeps poking you in the same sore spot.

You don’t need to justify your feelings to earn the right to have them.

Try saying this (out loud if you can): “I am valid in feeling angry about that.”

Then (this is the important part) FEEL angry.

Not by lashing out at others. Not by hurting yourself. But by letting your body and mind actually experience it.

Cry.

Journal.

Go for a furious walk.

Scream into a pillow.

Have a solo crash-out moment where you let it all spill without censoring yourself.

That’s not weakness. That’s processing!

Avoiding Feelings Doesn’t Make You Stronger

Somewhere along the way, we learned that being “strong” means being unfazed. Calm. Pleasant. Fine.

But real strength looks more like this:

• Letting yourself cry instead of pretending you’re okay

• Admitting you’re angry instead of swallowing resentment

• Acknowledging anxiety instead of shaming yourself for it

• Giving disappointment space instead of rushing into silver linings

  
  

Being human doesn’t mean presenting happy all the time. It means being honest about what’s happening inside of you.

And honesty is far braver than constant positivity.

This Is How You Actually Get Over It

Here’s the part people often miss: Feeling your emotions is how you move through them, not how you get stuck in them.

When emotions are allowed to rise, peak, and pass, they complete their cycle. When they’re ignored or pushed away, they linger.

So if you’ve ever thought, “Why am I still upset about this?” It might be because you never fully let yourself feel it in the first place.

Let yourself be angry, then watch how it softens. Let yourself cry, then notice the relief that follows. Let yourself feel disappointed, then see how clarity begins to form.

That’s not wallowing. That’s completing the emotion.

A Gentle Reminder

If this perspective doesn’t land for you right now, that’s absolutely and truly okay.

Healing and coping are not the same for everyone, and timing matters.

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You don’t need to rush your feelings. You don’t need to earn the right to have them. And you don’t need to pretend you’re okay to be worthy of care.

You’re human. And that’s more than enough.

Reflection: Take a moment and ask yourself:

• What emotion have I been rushing myself through lately?

• Where do I feel it in my body when I slow down enough to notice?

• What would it sound like to validate myself instead of fixing myself?

  
  

Try finishing this sentence without minimizing it:

“I am allowed to feel ___ about this because ___.”

You don’t need to do anything with the feeling right now. You don’t need to solve it or reframe it. Just notice what happens when you let it exist.

Remember: Feeling is not failing. It’s how you move forward.

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